Last year, I was pretty determined and clear about what I wanted from 2017. I made a list of three clear, ambitious goals, and somehow I managed to pull them off. The biggest and most transformational goal was moving from South Africa to the US, and in many ways, it feels like that move is still impacting my life and hopes for the year ahead.
But this year, I haven’t made a list of goals like I did in 2017. I’d say that I want to lose weight and get fit, but that’s a process that I actually started last month thanks to moving to a new place and joining a local gym where I’m able to lift heavy again. My other goals are based on the move – getting settled into our new home, making friends, etc. And for a while today, the lack of goals left me feeling like I don’t have focus, like I’m adrift. That isn’t the case though.
In fact, I know what I need to do. I need to organize my life here in Arizona. I need to continue working and growing in my career. I need to embrace the changes in our lives from this move and slowly find time and space to meet people. I’m enjoying reaching out to old friends at the moment, and I’m curious to see which connections lead to closer bonds.
2017 was actually the first year that I set out solid goals. Normally, I didn’t believe in New Year’s resolutions because they seemed like a recipe for disappointment. You can choose any day, any time to reinvent yourself, to resolve to be better at something. Instead, I’m going to push towards a series of smaller goals this year, and just try to take things easy for a while.
There are many things that I want and need in 2018, but we just turned our lives upside down. While we all feel a lot more settled now than we were a month ago, I think it’s okay for us to build up some clutter in the house, be a bit chilled and generally just relax into our new home and lives. The rest will come. I can still live a happy and fulfilled life without goals, and still be productive and striving. For now, I just don’t have a 2018 goals post, and that’s okay.