Pregnant in a bikini

5.5 month bikini bump

I like to think that I’m a fairly confident person. I have no problem speaking in public, meeting strangers, and I’m mostly comfy enough in my own skin to wear what I like and flaunt what I’ve got. At the same time, I’m still a woman, which means that I have my own obsessions about how I look and plenty of days when I think I’m too fat to wear anything other than certain dresses or whatever that I’m comfy in no matter what (every person needs those outfits). Being pregnant, and more specifically pregnant with a girl, has made me need to reevaluate a lot of my own body issues, and get over myself.

I have always had a round figure. I’m fortunate enough to have round “squishy bits” as my husband likes to call them (I hate when he calls them that, of course), so I tend towards an hourglass figure… although that cinched in around the middle bit isn’t generally as small as I’d like. In particular, I hate my stomach and I always have. Even at my thinnest/fittest/healthiest, I have found my stomach to be my least favorite body part. Now, though, it’s filled with a tiny human, and that makes it better, but I plan to do even better with my body image stuff.

You see, I’m convinced that every woman has body issues. Whether she thinks she’s too thin, too fat, flat chested, over developed or whatever in between, I don’t believe I’ve ever met a woman who was totally happy with her body. And these issues are learned – they have little to nothing to do with how the rest of the world sees us, but rather the body dysmorphic crap we all have to deal with. I already knew some things about raising a girl that my mom did that I want to repeat with my little munchkin – things like never commenting on her body or her weight in a way to make her uncomfortable, and definitely telling her that she’s smart, beautiful and strong or healthy. It’s not about how much you weigh, but the miracle of what our bodies can do.

5.5 month bikiniOf course, I feel like I have to do more than that. For at least a bunch of years of her life, I will be her biggest role model. And her biggest role model has never allowed anyone to take a picture of her in a bikini, because ew, why would I want to celebrate that. Instead, today I break all of that. Today I reclaim my body confidence because I want to be the mom who plays with her little girl in the pool, I want to be the mom who isn’t afraid to dress in matching outfits with her kid, I want to the be the mom who is the embodiment of positive body image no matter what, so that little princess Harley grows up to know that not all women need to feel bad about how they look. So, here is my pregnant bikini body – feel free to judge if you want, but I’m going to head to the pool and cool off in this Joburg heatwave.

And here’s hoping that all this positive body image rubs off on me, too – fake till I make it or whatever, but even if it’s just a show for Harley, I think it will help me accept my body, no matter how it turns out after this pregnancy. Here’s hoping that Harley is the first woman in history who never looks at herself in the mirror and thinks she needs to go on a diet, here’s hoping that Harley never believes that her life would be better if her weight/dress size/bra size were different. Here’s hoping that  I can break the cycle of messed up female body image for at least one future woman, and maybe I’ll help myself along in the process.

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  • naxie naxie

    you are SO beautiful, zoe…..and those photos of you just prove it! you will be a role-model for princess harley in such wonderful and meaningful ways, on land AND in the water or by the pool…*LOL*…..and btw, seeing your pregnant belly in those pics, brought tears to my eyes….

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