The irony of the Sound of Silence

sound of silence

Growing up in New York City, I never had an issue with noise. In fact, an oft cited story about me while growing up was the fact that I fell asleep in a bowling alley as a child. I don’t need quiet or darkness to sleep, although obviously it is preferable, and in general I’m used to having sounds around me without getting distracted. As a result, I never really appreciated the sound of silence until I procreated.

Harley makes noise. Not a little bit, a lot of noise. Pretty much if she’s awake, there’s a sound. It’s not just cries and screams, sometimes it’s gurgles and moans, although those can become screams if she doesn’t get the attention she needs fast enough. It means that I adore the times when she’s asleep – I can gain use of both my hands, I can go to the bathroom or grab food, or I can just enjoy a quiet moment in my own thoughts (like right now).

Her sounds have already started to drive Dean pretty crazy. It doesn’t help that most of her noisy time is in the evening, when he’s freshly home from work and just wants to chill. At least last night she stayed quiet for a couple hours in the evening while we had a couple glasses of wine together. It also helps that I’ve found a wonderful new way to calm her – I bounce and dance with her to a variety of music. One of my favorite songs to dance to with her is this cover from Disturbed:

The irony isn’t lost on me – the thing that gets my baby quiet is dancing to a song titled the Sound of Silence.

Oh silence, how I will miss you. I suppose my house will be quiet again in what, 14 years or so? Perhaps when she’s a moody teenager I’ll be able to enjoy some quiet time again. Or sooner provided she grows up like me and isn’t one for running around screaming. Definitely need to raise her to be a book worm. Or a gamer – I don’t mind those sounds. Then again, with the fact that motion calms her as a baby, she will probably like to be in motion as she grows older. Plenty of running and screaming in my future…


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  • That Disturbed track has to be one of the greatest cover versions ever! But the entire album is amazing, my favorite track is The Light… it’s a great dancing track if you’re lulling a baby! 🙂

    • Her Highness the Hipster

      Yes, loving the album. no surprise there, though – I always enjoy Disturbed. 🙂 just never imagined it would make good lullaby music 😉

  • Naxie

    ya know, she’s still so new that it’s just impossible to know if she’ll be a hell raiser or a calm and quiet kid. yep, you did fall asleep in a bowling alley and you DID have the loudest scream i’ve ever heard come out of any human, but otherwise, you weren’t a loud baby or child. however, you were a talker and a singer – and yep, i DID buy you a microphone that you loved to play with so your sounds were greatly amplified.

    when you factor in the bit that had she been a full-term baby vs 8 weeks premature – she’s just very, very new – even though she’s been alive for 10 weeks, assuming my math is correct – she’s sorta like a 2 week old infant. the crying and screaming is what she’s supposed to be doing, i think.

    for what it’s worth – every single thing that i thought i knew from the time you were an infant, didn’t turn out to be correct. well, one exception – i loved you with all of my heart and now, so many years later, that remains the same and continues to grow every single day. screaming, talking, microphone and all – you are MY precious baby and a remarkable mom to the princess.

    • Her Highness the Hipster

      oh geez, a talker and a singer with a microphone! so much for being a quiet reader/gamer – i must have been so noisy!

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