Why I won’t have a baby registry after all

baby registry

A few weeks back, I wrote about my discomfort with the idea of a baby registry. It felt like begging to me and I worried that friends and family would think I was expecting them to pay for mine and Dean’s decision to procreate. However, thanks to some awesome feedback from people who read my words, I decided that it wasn’t begging, but simply a guideline for those who want to buy presents for my little munchkin. It is rather fun to buy baby stuff, and people like to feel helpful, so why not tell them what I want and need for those who are unsure of what I might want. I stressed to Stacey (probably way more than I needed to, but hopefully she knows I’m pregnant and apparently need to say things a million times) that I want the invite to say that while gifts are appreciated, they really are not required at all; I don’t want anyone to feel like an invite to the baby shower is actually me trying to dip into their pockets.

So, prepared to shop for all the fun stuff, Stacey and I set to work making a baby shower. WHAT. A. MISSION! We had already ruled out Baby City because they only allow you to make a registry close to the shower date, plus none of it ends up online so you actually have to go to the specific store where the registry was done and rummage in the registry bin. Instead, we went to another major baby outlet, and then another, and then another. Almost all of them let you register, but almost none of them have sites that list all the products that they actually stock. For example, on the Babies R Us registry, i could find a manual AVENT breast pump, but not an electric one. And I could find one model of Angel Care monitor, but not the one I actually wanted. All this despite the fact that I’ve SEEN the ones I wanted in the actual stores.

I guess it wasn’t meant to be. See, I shouldn’t have worried about the ethics of baby registries, but rather the logistics of them. But this is better, I think. Well, I hope. Instead of a registry, people will be given places with stuff that I like where they can feel free to buy just about anything. At the same time, my only real request for the baby shower is that everyone brings their favorite kid’s book. If people do that, they will already have shown such thought and love, and Harley will have something special from each person. If they still want to buy me something, at least then it won’t feel generic or thoughtless to get a voucher or something – the thoughtfulness quota will have already been met.

it all works out for me in the end, although I’m sort of shocked at the way South African stores handle these things. Surely the people having kids these days are young and prefer to shop online. You’d think that they’d make the process streamlined, with standardized “first time parent” check lists for people to choose from when doing an online registry to make the whole process as quick and easy as possible to ensure that the stores get all the money? Now, it will just be that much easier for me to end up buying the baby stuff at non-baby stores. Silly retailers.


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  • KB

    The offerings of online baby stores is really lacking. And those that are available, like Baby Group, are in the higher price range. I bought a lot of things on the Takealot daily deals and sales.

    Love the idea of the books to bring along (kids books are darn pricey too, I’ve discovered).

    • Her Highness the Hipster

      yeah, I’m realizing that while baby stores are great for finding stuff and figuring out what I want/need, I’ll probably end up buying those same items from “normal” stores instead once I’ve found them.

  • Can I give a word of advice? It’s something not all people think of.

    For baby clothes:

    Tell people what age your kid will be during summer and winter.

    It will prevent people from buying a winter pajama set for a size that will see your kid only able to wear it in winter and ultimately not at all.

    PS: Enjoy the day! And remember Baby City allow you to swop out any item that they stock for something else. And I really mean any item. Even not from them at times.

    • Darnit. Can’t edit comments after posting: It will prevent people from buying a winter pajama set for a size that will see your kid only able to wear it in summer and ultimately not at all.

    • Her Highness the Hipster

      awesome – i will definitely be returning random stuff if it’s not what i want. Feels horrible to say it, but would rather have things I’ll use than duplicates or things that will only ever collect dust.